“What You Think About You Bring About”
I’ve seen this quoted by Bob Proctor and others over the past years, and yet it still excites me to notice it happen with such accuracy!
Let me share my latest experience with you:
I went to a Business Connection (Networking) event on 23rd Feb. I was giving away some books and Peter Salerno (the Chair and MC) told me a few minutes prior, that I’d get the opportunity to speak to all the guests and tell them what I do.
That’s what we want in business isn’t it? But…
‘Thinking About it… ‘
We all know that we should have our ‘elevator pitch’ ready for these moments and when you’re going to a networking event you should always be prepared. And yet my ‘pitch’ flew out of my brain and was replaced by a mass of other overwhelming ‘stuff’.
Should I focus on the Property Coaching, or Life Coaching, or a combination of the two?
Should I use the ‘Did you know…’ approach about one of them for intrigue and get them to ask me more later?
But none of the ‘pitches’ seemed comfortable. I just wanted to be authentic and talk from the heart, not the head. But I couldn’t think where to start or how to keep it short and sweet.
The first thing that came about:
And then the answer came to me – as I knew deep down that it would…
At the beginning of the evening I was introduced to a very interesting man (Robert Elrington) and we exchanged books. As I struggled for clarity on what I would say to the audience, I opened his book for some diversion, and my eyes immediately went to the quote on a left hand page … which is interesting, because usually our eyes are drawn to the right hand pages.
‘If it’s to be – It’s up to me’
I read that quote, and it immediately bought my mind back to when I was working in the corporate field with an amazing HR and Marketing Manager who was one of my early Mentors. It was a quote he used consistently at work, and one which he reiterated to me, along with other coaching, just before I had an interview with the CEO, for a Supervisory position that no-one (including me!) expected me to win.
It was his BELIEF that made all the difference to me.
It was his belief in me, that gave me the courage to be a ‘new’ me in the interview, and shock the CEO into offering me the position above other excellent applicants.
It was his belief in me that gave me the confidence to accept the position with a 3 month probation despite having NO fall back job in the company if I didn’t work out.
Looking back, I realised that this was the beginning of a whole new chapter in my life. It was the beginning of my personal growth from a subservient unhappy wife and average employee, to become a happy, more confident, corporate climber and ultimately an independent woman.
He wasn’t the only person who has made a profound and positive impact on my life. There have been lots of great mentors, coaches, educators and advocates in my life since that time and all have helped me to continue to flourish and become so much more fulfilled. But it started with someone else having faith in me. And that’s what I realised I specifically want for my clients … and realised that it’s what I’ve been doing for the last decade!
Now what I wanted to say was clear. I relayed the story from who I was; a very shy, quiet, insecure employee, to who I am now. Because of the belief of one person I trusted and respected, I was able to change my life. So, I told that audience …
“A mentor changed my life by believing in me before I could believe in me. And that’s one of the key things I do for my clients!”
It feels so good to share that 🙂
The second thing that came about…
The week before and after that networking event I’d been running a Total Focus Workshop in Adelaide. It’s a course to help people change from their current life and move towards their preferred life. That description and the term, ‘Life Coaching’ doesn’t do the process justice unfortunately, but you get the gist J
First let me put this bit into context;
I had run a free 45 minute introductory presentation which is usually what inspires people who are ready to improve their lives, to come along and commit to my coaching course. The intro itself is empowering and thought provoking. But we had one person start the course who hadn’t attended the intro presentation and really didn’t know why they were there.
They had just been told to attend by a (very caring) relative who told them to pay their course fee and be there. Coming along wasn’t their choice, which was a big enough hurdle to get past, but on top of that you could see it was a physical as well as emotional struggle for them to think of even one goal to start the course with.
So, when I got this feedback in an email from them the day following the event I was stoked!
”I want to express my heart felt gratitude for your brilliant work over the last two weeks. The comment I left on the feedback form doesn’t properly (or eloquently) convey what I meant. What left the biggest impact on me was that your eyes immediately told me that you are rock solid in your convictions, know how to achieve plans and deeply believe that you know how to help me.”
Feeling fulfilled 🙂
All the guys who attended are now on their 90 day challenge and I can’t wait to see all their results in 3 months time!!
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